011- Honey, You need to lose some weight?

Suppose your boyfriend/husband tells you that you need to lose weight. What do you do? How do you react? A thousand questions runs through your mind as soon as the words are out of his mouth. Does he hate the way I look? Does he think I am ugly? Suppose if I get even bigger, will he leave me for someone with a better body? Will he stop loving me if I fail to lose weight? Is he only into looks? Is he even worth it? Etc etc.

And eventually these questions, they plague your mind with insecurities. You start feeling self conscious when you're around him. You start second guessing yourself. You start losing your self-worth. You start feeling frustrated. You wanna just cut out that part of you that he doesn't like. Basically, you feel like shit.

Is this how someone who loves you should make you feel? Is this how you feel when you're with that one person who claims to love you despite everything? Shouldn't he tell you that you're beautiful, no matter what? Isn't he suppose to find you attractive even when you have just woken up from the bed with your hair all over your face and god forbid, some drool running down the corner of your lips? Isn't he suppose to tell you you're beautiful when you have a really bad cold and your eyes are all swollen and your nose is all red and you have snotty tissues all over your bed?

If he makes you feel like shit, then is he truly the one you're meant to be with? Is he the one you see your whole life with? Imagine a life where you have to feel like you're ugly and unworthy of anyone's love. Imagine a life where you compare yourself with every person you see and the only thing you see are the way sometimes your tummy flab hangs and your thighs jiggle every time you walk. It's okay to feel that way sometimes, if only you have someone to tell you're beautiful no matter how you look. Someone who sees a beautiful person when he looks into your eyes. Someone who thinks you're gorgeous even when you wear your baggy clothes and hide every inch of your skin. Someone who sees you in you. But if that person says you're ugly and fat too then you're screwed.

You know he loves you and you know he's just saying those things coz he wants you to feel good about yourself. But how he says it is the most important thing. If he doesn't choose his words right, he's bound to lose something that could've been the best thing in his life.

So.. Is he the one you want to spend the rest of your life with?